Who Services - the SW, or the Client?

Pokpokan Blues
By Makisig Santos

“You suck?”

There was incredulity in his voice when he asked me, again, if I would give him head.  Like he doesn’t, couldn’t, believe what he just heard from me.

“Yeah,” I said again.  “And extremely well, too.”

“Nice, nice…” he said, repetitively, his hands playing with each other – like Gollum appeared, somewhat, playing with his “precious.”

He seemed lost for a while there – in his own thoughts, so silence ensued.

“Well?”

He looked me over, smiling; eyeing a prized possession, I could sense.  Not that I minded any.

Again: “Well?”

He licked his slips, smile widening.

Then: “Maybe you’d be more expensive?”

I breathed.  Deeply. In exasperation.

For this wasn’t the first time I had such an encounter.

And the issue being: When you pay for sex, who does the service (e.g. sucking), you or the one you paid for?

Yes, the answer ought to be easy – you are the one paying, you should be serviced.

Alas, this is the Philippines.

When you pay a man to have “sex” with him, you are really only paying to be allowed to suck him – this is the GENERAL practice in the country, stemming from the macho belief that it may be okay to get sucked, as long as you don’t suck, since doing so won’t lessen your masculinity, but will in fact strengthen it (i.e. not just girls want you, even other men – gay they may be – find you attractive, too).  Ditto with fucking – it is okay to top, but not be topped, since the former is male, the latter effeminate.

So the question remains, when you pay for sex in the Philippines, do you just suck or do you get sucked?

And the response, at least from me, is it depends on the contexts.

If/when it’s within the parlor context, then you do the sucking – self-identifying heterosexual men (MSMs) in this context may even think you lucky to have had the chance of having them, so pleasing them is what you should be focusing on; and then, after making them cum, paying them for the “pleasure” of pleasuring them is supposed to make you happy.

There has been growing empowerment in this context, so that (particularly) parlorista gays now demand to be serviced, too, which, in SW way of seeing, is just fair and square.  I suggest for this approach, mainly because if/when I pay for a service (any kind of service, not just sexual), I expect to get what I paid for.  I did the paying, I dictate what to get what I paid for.  And how to get it, too.

If/when you pick up SWs themselves, you can demand for the sucking to be done on you – actually, it should be a given, so SWs will, yes, go down on you.  That’s why you paid – to be pleased.  Our satisfaction, as SWs, come after yours.

Yes, there are those who pay to do the servicing on SWs (on me) – that’s fine by me, too.  But only because the client asked to do it.  It’s his/her prerogative.  Not mine.

Back to the mumbling client, he continued keeping giving me a look over.

“You’re sure you’ll do it?”

I sighed, already exasperated.

“Yep.”

“Really?” he asked, yet again. “Really?”

“It’s all part of the job,” I said. “Comes with the territory.”

“Nice, nice...”

“So are you hiring me or not?”

Makisig Santos, 24, is an on/off sex worker, who believes that since the profession is inherently dangerous, SWs need to be provided with as much know-how as possible for them to be able to protect themselves in whatever situation they find themselves in – and this is the very intention he intends to achieve here, with Pokpokan Blues.